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I hate it when people make excuses for abortion.
“Oh I don’t have the money”…what about adoption?
“Oh I’m too young”…You weren’t too young to have sex.
No. People are just cruel and irresponsible.
adoption is not a solution for pregnancy
adoption is not a solution for pregnancy
adoption is not a solution for pregnancy
you know what would prevent unwanted pregnancies? comprehensive sex ed! once people receive that, it doesn’t matter what age consensual sex occurs- they know how to not get pregnant and how to not get STDs.
it’s not cruel nor is it irresponsible.
it’s cruel trying to shame people for choosing something they believe is best for them.
Not everyone gets adopted.
P.S. I hate it when people make excuses for being misogynistic buttholes.
I’m really tired of prolifers acting like adoption is literally the easiest thing in the world. Like OH, HERES MY BABY, NBD NO EMOTIONAL DAMAGE OR TURMOIL HERE. IT’LL GET ADOPTED TOMORROW AWAY! ALL THE ORPHANAGES ARE EMPTY! TROLOLOL!
Seriously, however you feel about abortion, one way or the other, please stop diffusing the pain of adoption and treating it like you’re dropping off a package at the post office for some shit. You have to grow that child inside your body, create it, give it life, see it’s first breaths, see that it is genetically half of you, and let go of it forever.
You have to fully accepting that you’re not capable of taking care of this child and come to terms that this child would have a better life with someone else and let go and let them raise your little creation as their own, knowing someone else will be “mother” to them. Can you imagine?
Fuck you if you think it’s that simple. Seriously if I hear another person derailing it like that I will lose my goddamn mind.
Speaking as the child of an adoptee, who has COUNTLESS adopted relatives, and an adopted relative who just gave a child up for adoption, it has got to be single-handedly the most difficult, heart-breaking, and courageous thing a person could ever do. I have a lot of respect for people that can do it. It takes an extremely brave woman.
But I never could.
A few years ago, I found the letters my mom’s biological mom wrote her and never sent. She had a private adoption. Her biological mom wrote her a letter every year on what would be her birthday, telling her how she felt. But she wasn’t even able to give them to my mother until she was in her late twenties. I’ve never cried as hard as I did reading those letters.
You’re giving away a piece of your heart to a near-stranger and knowing your child is out there and (in most cases) you might never see them again unless they go looking for you. And that’s IF they get adopted at all. Which is up to chance.
In conclusion, whatever you support, ditch the high and mighty attitude. If you’re going to advocate it, realize the gravity of that situation.
I know someone who gave up her baby for adoption in the early 1960’s and she said it’s a living death.
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Also pertinent if they bring Jesus and your abortion into it; Jesus would harass a woman about her pregnancy (when if she doesn’t want a child, she should choose adoption, not abortion!) while not adopting disadvantaged children? Unlikely.
Stfu Hypocrites: Adoption instead of Abortion: The numbers.
I did not write the following, I found it on the interwebz:
People who are pro-life usually cite adoption as an alternative to terminating a woman’s pregnancy. They say that there are many other families who will take their child in. That would come close to even beginning to be a noble sentiment, if there weren’t so many kids already in the foster care system.According to the most current AFCARS (Adoption and Foster Care Analysis and Reporting System Report) Report, released in June 2011, there were approximately 408,425 children in the U. S. in foster care on September 30, 2010. The full report is available online via the Children’s Bureau website at:http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/stats_research/afcars/tar/report18.htmhttp://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/stats_research/afcars/tar/report18.htm.
For State-specific information on the number of entries, exits, and children in care on the last day of the Federal fiscal year 2010, as of June 15, 2011, please see the table on the Children’s Bureau website at:http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/stats_research/afcars/statistics/entryexit2010.pdfhttp://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/stats_research/afcars/statistics/entryexit2010.pdf.
In addition, this table provides comparable data for the years 2002 - 2010.
Now, those numbers don’t lie. If there are that many children already in foster care what makes you think that one more is going to have an increased chance over them? Are they not worth your “pro-life” campaigning? I guess the stance that all life is sacred and worth protecting and providing for is not applicable to people who have already left the womb. If you were really pro-LIFE you would be caring, campaigning, and fighting tooth and nail for the kids who are already stuck in the horrible world that is the foster care system of America. But, just to drill it through your skulls, here are some more numbers and facts.
• There are 423,773 children in the U.S. foster care system; 114,556 of these children are available for adoption. Their birth parent’s legal rights have been permanently terminated and children are left without a family.
• More children become available for adoption each year than are adopted. In 2009, 69,947 children had parental rights terminated by the courts, yet only 57,466 were adopted.
• Children often wait three years or more to be adopted, move three or more times in foster care and often are separated from siblings. The average age of waiting children is 8 years old.
• Last year, 29,471 children turned 18 and left the foster care system without an adoptive family.
• Adopting from foster care is affordable. Most child welfare agencies cover the costs of home studies and court fees, and provide post-adoption subsidies. Thousands of employers offer financial reimbursement and paid leave for employees who adopt and Federal and/or state adoption tax credits are available to most families.
• Every child is adoptable. Many children in foster care have special needs. All of them deserve the chance to grow up in a safe, loving, permanent home. Support and other post-adoption resources are available.
• Adopting from foster care is permanent. Once a child is adopted out of foster care, the birth parents cannot attempt to claim them or fight in court for their return. A family formed through foster care adoption is forever.
• According to a National Adoption Attitudes Survey commissioned by the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption, 63 percent of Americans hold a favorable view of adoption and 78 percent think more should be done to encourage adoption.
• Nearly 40 percent of American adults, or 81.5 million people, have considered adopting a child, according to the National Adoption Attitudes Survey. If just one in 500 of these adults adopted, every waiting child in foster care would have a permanent family.
If you think that putting more children into the roulette of being adopted is a good idea, read over those facts. Why would you want to put a child through that? Simply because you want to stand on your pedestal to preach from your misconceived moral high ground? Don’t sacrifice others into that, just so you can seem like some defender of life and it’s future possibilities.
You’re not pro-life, you’re just a supporter of a movement that takes away the control women have over their own bodies and futures. After that fetus comes to term, you disappear and move on to the next unfortunate pregnant woman to stop her from as well. You use guilt, fear tactics, and violence to achieve your goals; as opposed to logic and sound thinking.
You’re not pro-life, you’re just pro-70,000-deaths-a-year-from-unsafe-abortions.
You’re just pro-stripping-people-of-their-bodily-autonomy.
You’re just pro-flood-the-system-with-kids-who-won’t-get-adopted-and-who-we-can’t-afford-to-feed-or-provide-shelter-for.
You’re just pro-fuck-you-anybody-with-a-uterus.