Are You Guilty? 10 Ways We Body Shame Each Other
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Can we, I dunno, post this in all clothing stores? Also in restaurants? And good GODS, the pretend compliments one…
I need feminism because this post has 90k notes but posts about how they are taught from a very young age that they are worthless, that they’re objects for men, and that their bodies should be a certain way or they will never succeed in anything receive little to no recognition. When girls are raised with this way of thinking and when it’s constantly reinforced by everything around them their whole lives, it’s really no surprise that dressing provocatively makes them feel empowered. And if they take drugs or drink it’s either because a) they want to (in which case lay off) or b) they’ve been pressured into it by their friends and society. They should be able to have sex at whatever age they want and the fact they are denied sex education is so societies fault, not theirs. Either way, stop blaming young girls for behavior they have literally been trained into doing since they were born.
Why do I get the feeling that the OP (in the graphic) is completely parroting this bullshit from someone else but is throwing in “slut-shaming” to make it sound relevant? At any rate, this OP is dead fucking on.
“Honey Boo Boo’s Mama, June Shannon weds Sugar Bear 9 years after meeting online”
I have seen many articles and TV segments about this lately. There are a few things that are really bothering me about how the press is conveying this story:
- They met in an online chat room. The amount of people today who meet significant others online is higher than it ever has been. I think this is awesome! Why would we not want other people to connect with someone they enjoy talking to. This also helps to take physical appearance out of the picture. People are falling in love because they enjoy the conversations they are having.
- People have been raging on the wedding attire and decor. I think every bride should feel beautiful on her wedding day. There are many typical bridal dresses I think are ugly, but a bride needs to wear what she feels beautiful in. I don’t mind her dress at all and I think it is a very flattering cut on her. Why does anyone feel it is acceptable to say negative things about what she is wearing. Every bride has the right to feel beautiful, hop off!
- Appearance vs words. I REALLY bothers me how people feel it is ok to comment about how “gross” they feel the family is. I think the family is really fucking awesome! They have so much love for each other and it shows. These were the comments June Shannon had about her wedding:
- “The day was very special mostly because my girls were able to take part in it”
- “I felt like it was important for them to see this moment and celebrate my love for Sugar Bear”
- “We stayed true to our roots and made the focus on the family and my commitment to Sugar Bear. You can definitely plan an event on a budget!”
- “Never settle for a man who doesn’t treat you right,” she advised. “If a guy doesn’t love everything about you, move on! There are plenty of other fish in the sea.”
- “because I always want them to be themselves and surround themselves with people who love them for them.”
If every parent felt this way, we would have a much better world.
I REALLY REALLY hate when people say they are stupid. Lets all remember that she arranged for TLC to directly deposit all the money into 5 different trust funds she set up: 4 for her daughters and 1 for her granddaughter. The girls can not touch the money until they turn 21 with exceptions for school and medical emergencies.
The thin privilege comments that center around this family are disgusting. The only thing you have to comment on is their weight and how it is “unhealthy”? These comments are directly coming from the fact that people can’t find any other way to criticize her parenting style and it annoys them. I wish people focused as much about their own families as they do about this family. This family is happy. Go away and let them raise their children how they want to.
In all seriousness I made this because it’s one of my pet peeves for guys to assume I’m dressing up/wearing makeup for THEM, but then after I made this, I’m like holy shit I made that hair dryer fuck that shoe. So then I had two reasons to put it on tumblr.
New favorite gif set.
I need feminism because my father shouldn’t feel entitled to tell me I should lose the extra pounds* I put on while working on my senior thesis, so he could “feel proud of having a thin daughter again”. Nor to call me “crazy” after objecting to his fucked up beauty standards.
*from 127 to 133lbs, for the record (as you can see in the picture)
Note to self: Write thank you note to own father, thank him for not being a horrible asshole. Pray that this poor woman’s atrocious father who shouldn’t even be called a parent pull his head out of his ass and apologizes profusely. Jesus!
Stfu Assholes: i hate feminism but...
a couple nights ago when i was stressing out about if i should major in bio or comp sci or math, my dad said (lightly) that perhaps i should just try to find a husband and have kids LOL because that’s what really matters in life.
i almost spit out my sashimi.
except not really. i didn’t react. but on the inside i was making mental notes such as “never going to have kids just to spite him.”
i don’t want to have kids. i want to have a ton of rescue cats. and i want to be extraordinary.
but my parents talk about anyone who doesn’t get married as if she were a freak, like my 27 year old cousin. also, i have this other cousin who is clearly gay. she brought her girlfriend over for thanksgiving, and my parents referred to her as her “classmate.” they say it’s just a “tomboy phase” and she will get over it. or else what a tragedy amiright.
i’m not a feminist, and i don’t expect my parents to be hyper-sensitive to issues such as homosexuality, but subconsciously, their ignorant attitude makes me distance myself and not want to spend time with them.
and i really have NOBODY to blame but myself, but a part of me wonders whether or not my dad’s attitude towards women played a role in the development of my eating disorder. i hate when he and my brother talk about girls so objectively. basically the only thing they ever discuss is a girl’s appearance. my brother actually brings up girls’ facebook pages and asks my parents how attractive they think she is. and believe me when i say they are harsh. which just makes me feel like shit.
but maybe that’s just how the world is. and i am hypersensitive. but when it gets bad, i just become so so so hurt and angry and i’ll just go to my room and cry and stuff my face with food and regret ever believing in people in the first place because people suck balls they suck balls.
also my dad cheated on my mom so many times with high end escorts. i can’t stand it when he criticizes her for being obsessed with animals etc. i just want to be like “BUT YOU FUCKED A BUNCH OF HOES AND SHE DOESN’T SAY SHIT ABOUT IT so maybe you can not get all dramatic about the rice not being fluffy okay.”
forgive me for being hypocritical and for generalizing, but sometimes i really hate men.
So if you have a problem with the people in your life’s attitude towards gender roles…. why aren’t you a feminist?
Reminds me of this:
It’s sad that misogynists have created a false cartoon of what feminism is so that people who could truly benefit from it (you know, everyone) claim to hate it.
The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.
Jada Pinkett Smith (via chubby-bunnies)
you guys do not understand how much i love jada. like, everything she says about parenting a little girl over the years is just…yes. she is fierce as a mama. gawd.