I need feminism because I don’t want my son growing up thinking that he has no control over how he treats others. I want him to know that he won’t turn into an animal just because another person happens to be drunk or wearing “provocative” clothing.
There is no justification for sexual assault. As well as being remarkably dis-empowering to the victim, the “she was drunk” etc etc arguments place men in the default position of being a sexual predator. How are more men not outraged by that? I would like to believe that I, as a man, have enough self control not to sexually assault another person regardless of setting or circumstance. I don’t want my son to grow up afraid that he is not in control of his own actions and may harm somebody as a result. Every person is responsible for their own actions, sexual assault is a CRIME and sexual assault is NEVER THE FAULT OF THE VICTIM.
Bolding mine. I might actually support MRAs if they got mad about the right shit, instead of feminism and “incel” (look it up and scream).
“accidentally” bumping phones out of dudebros hands when they are taking creep shots.
Should be an olympic sport. Extra points if you kick it into a wall so hard it breaks.
MAGDOLENE’S STORY TIME!
Back when I worked for The Bombay Company (you know, when it still existed), we had large windows we had to “dress”. Given that the location was in a mall, this was always hell, and it always had to be done when the store/mall was open (meaning, we’d always have an “audience” on the other side of the windows).
Once, while working with a fellow (female) manager on overly-ambitious corporate display, as we were putting everything into place we had to move a dresser. We both took an end and scooted back and our backsides very briefly pressed up against the glass (you’d be surprised the angles of which your body is capable when you work retail). In the millisecond that that occurred, we saw a flash. I jumped back (as best I could) to see what happened.
A man in a business suit was hastily stuffing his camera into his pocket and backing away.
I said, “Did he just—”
She said “It’s happened before. Just try to ignore it.”
I wish I’d gotten out and broken his camera. Not because he got a picture of our asses (which were not only completely clothed, obviously, but obscured by our aprons), but because this is just another shitstain to whom women are objects, a collection of body parts to discern and judge, and not sentient beings.
Props to all the awesome people that fight this shit. Our bodies are not public property.
[***TRIGGER WARNING! RAPE***]
“Repeat Rape: How do they get away with it?”, Part 1 of 2. (link to Part 2)
- College Men: Repeat Rape and Multiple Offending Among Undetected Rapists,Lisak and Miller, 2002 [PDF, 12 pages]
- Navy Men: Lisak and Miller’s results were essentially duplicated in an even larger study (2,925 men): Reports of Rape Reperpetration by Newly Enlisted Male Navy Personnel, McWhorter, 2009 [PDF, 16 pages]
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Knowledge is a seed; sow it.
your bra strap is showing please hide it because it is suggestive. also your boobs are producing lumps in your shirt please hide them. your butt is in the same situation please get rid of it. also your legs. your arms. your face.
I can see your feet and it’s very distracting and slightly arousing.
***TRIGGER WARNING! Sexual Assault***
A friend of mine was sexually assaulted out to dinner with a professor. When she told her story to her adviser, a dear friend of ours, she told him she wore a turtleneck and long pants and described her outfit. He cut her off and told her, “I don’t care if you were wearing a fucking bikini—nobody has the right to touch you.”
I think that was the first time in the whole process of talking to cops and administrators about what happened where someone actually told her it wasn’t her fault.
They make it about the clothes, the situation—“Why did you agree to dinner? Why didn’t you take your own car? Did you lead him on? For once, someone made it about her and her rights. I think this helped her most of all in the process. Everyone needs to respond like this to survivors, in my opinion.
I’m so sorry about your friend, OP. Props to her advisor (and you!) for being supportive and understanding what rape culture means—and saying “fuck this shit, NOBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO TOUCH YOU.”(via
I NEED FEMINISM
because every day strangers leer at me, catcall me, say ‘nice legs’ or tell me to ‘get my tits out’. I don’t remember the last time I whistled at a guy in shorts and told him to ‘get his dick out’…hmm- oh yeah, because this DOESN’T HAPPEN.
learn to treat us with respect, as we do to you.
A catcall is entirely about reminding you that you are not yours. The purity myth is entirely about reminding you that you are not yours. The fetishization of female purity in a world where catcalls are an acceptable form of communication telegraphs one thing very clearly:
“Women, stop sexualizing yourselves—that’s our job, and you’re taking all the fun out of it.”
The sexualization of women is only appealing if it’s nonconsensual. Otherwise it’s “sluttiness,” and sluttiness is agency and agency is threatening.
“Female ‘Purity’ is Bullshit”, by Lindy West (at jezebel.com)
I FUCKING LOVE LINDY WEST. SHE’S FROM SEATTLE AND SHE’S DA BEST.
Jezebel is bullshit, but they do have some amazing writers who drop amazing articles. I wish we could lure them all over to Feministing.
I need masculism because drunk women I take advantage of aren’t held responsible for my choices.
“I need masculism because drunk women aren’t held responsible for their choices.”
up to, and including, crime.
SOMEbody’s gotta keep those women in line!!!!
Why don’t they know their place these days? Feminism!! Feminism and misandry!!
Women with FREE WILL can do CHOICE up to and including CRIME!!!
Can’t allow that!! Womancrime is worse than mancrime!!! I NEED MASCULISMhreabnjtgeanow4ebuw! AUGH, MY POOR LITTLE TORTURED SOUL!!!!
Woman, why do you hurt me like this!!?? :”’(
So yeah, I have a new favorite Tumblr.
It’s a class, white and hetero-normative privilege to imply that all women survivors of rape and, by extension, intimate partner violence will be supported after they stop said terror by shooting a gun. Just ask Marissa Alexander. When you and yours are automatically criminalized; when police are doing arbitrary stop-and-frisks in your neighborhood to pad their numbers; when you’ve been routinely stereotyped as, say, a Jezebel, or a welfare queen, or a ratchet princess, or a hoodrat, or an overheated Latina, or a “mannish” aggressive, chances are your gunfire won’t be perceived as defensive. The same goes for girls and women who are assaulted when drunk or high. And, as Maxwell pointed out, most women are raped by people they know. They could have a gun but hesitate to shoot their roommate’s friend, or their ex-coworker after his going away party, or their second cousin, or the person they’ve been dating for four months.
Sunday’s verdict in the horrific Steubenville, OH, rape case drove home this kind of complexity.
--Akiba Solomon, On Steubenville, Guns, and Healthy Echo Chambers. (via futureabortiondoctor)